Regardless of how you celebrate, the holiday season can be difficult to navigate. This can be particularly true if you, a colleague, or loved one is in early recovery from substance use disorder or currently use substances. Whether you are hosting a holiday event or attending one, it is important to remember that there are a number of reasons a person might decline alcohol or other substances available at the event.
Psychology Today, recently compiled a list of practical ways to support individuals who decline alcohol or other substance use at an event. It is important to remember that for many, a good time does not involve substance use. Please see the list below of potential ways to support everyone at the party:
1. Be aware that many individuals may choose not to use substances, and we should refrain from asking them why. No one should feel obligated to explain their reasons for abstaining from substance use, and asking about the behavior sends the message that it is atypical, odd, or curious.
2. Ensure that there are alcohol-free beverage options at holiday events that are as visible as alcoholic beverages. The prominent placement of both alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages communicates that either option is equally acceptable.
3. Respect individuals’ limits and boundaries around their alcohol consumption. If you offer a guest a drink and they say “no, thank you” or “I better not,” respect their limits without asking multiple times or trying to persuade them to drink.
4. Substance-free events can be a welcome change for many and a time for all guests to enjoy the benefits of non-substance-related rewards (e.g., conversations with friends, good food, recreational activities, spiritual practices, music, and humor).
5. Check in on family and friends who actively use substances or are in recovery over the holidays. For some individuals, the holiday season can be isolating and challenging as normal routines are disrupted. A phone call, text, or visit to let someone who actively uses substances or are in recovery know you are thinking about them could be welcome encouragement.
6. Lastly, anyone in crisis can connect with suicide prevention, mental health, and substance use counselors using a nationwide number – 988. Phone service providers will now direct 988 calls to the existing national lifeline with its 13 Kentucky call centers. Connection to additional crisis services will be provided if necessary.
It is important to note that in addition to calling 988, an individual may text 988, or they can chat with a counselor at bit.ly/4glluBQ.
For additional information, visit 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Fact Sheet